LIFE

So it's been a little while since I have updated on life. I always update on Camden but not a whole life over-view!

SO I figured I will update before tomorrow's inevitable picture overload of Camden's first birthday, and of course his One Year old post.

Garth and I have lived in Colorado now since December 20th.
We LOVE IT.
That's not to say we didn't enjoy our time in Rexburg, we did. We miss it and our friends there so so often!
We know our time here could be temporary too but we are milking it!
The biggest difference about living here is that we do something different as a family almost every weekend. We go to Denver and explore. We go to the museum. We go swimming. We go to baseball and football games. We have done so many fun things. I always tell Garth our life here is 100% more entertaining! Coming from a small town we were home a lot more often on the weekends. Which of course we miss sometimes too. But we have been enjoying our Summer here before Garth starts grad school next week.

We enjoy not having to drive to another city far far away to get things or to get to a real mall. (OK the mall one is mostly me). We enjoy that everything we need is here. Good doctors. Fun places. Ikea. Target. YA know all those things... [;

Although I will say I do not have the same nostalgic feelings of Colorado I used to. I've realized coming back that my home and comfort will always be where Garth and Camden are period. I will feel like anywhere is home with them.
Of course my parents house will always have a place in my heart because I grew up there!


We have been blessed with our time here.
I absolutely adore being a stay at home mom, and do not desire to do anything but raise my kids and provide all the opportunities for them that I can. It is the BEST job. I am paid daily in smiles and kisses and cuddles. I can't think of a better gig. I love the day to day. I usually always have a little project I am working on, and Camden and I try to get outside a lot. He loves swimming so we do that often.

I watch Paris on Mondays just for fun so her and Camden can have a play date. I love that too. She's so cute and I love adding her to our FHE. She's like a little sponge. This week she said "I LOVE... TO SEE... TEMPLE!" about 100 times. She's got a sweet spirit and I love all she's teaching Camden!

Garth has been blessed with his job. It is a good job, that does require him to get little sleep, but he is home more than he has been in a while. He gets off work around 3:30 on average. We enjoy our evenings as a family quite a bit!!
We don't have many friends here, like we did in Rexburg--but we just have so much fun us three together.

Garth and I have been working on several decorative projects together lately. I LOVE that I married such a handy man! And its nice for me to have projects beyond the house!

Garth is, as always, such a good man. He works many many hours but never fails to be all we need him to be! Camden absolutely loves him and copies everything he does! It is so fun as a mom to see them together!

On Tuesday of next week Garth will be back into school! It's going to be a challenging program and time wise we aren't positive how it will all work out but we plan to take baby steps, and are both prepared to make some sacrifices.
I will again be the wife of a student. NOT my favorite position, but I love that Garth enjoys school.

We move more toward Thornton November first. We are very excited. Closer to work for Garth (school is only twice a week). Much more space and an extra room for a more permanent home. Also just a better area--one I'm more familiar with too.

I am of course, so so so so excited to enter the fall season and inevitably the holiday season! But I'm resisting any holiday decor until Camden's summer party is over [;

I know people hate the overly positive posts and feel like they aren't real, but Sorry guys I just truly am extremely satisfied with life.
I love my two boys. Camden's such a funny little guy, Garth's the greatest man I could've ever found, and I love my current job-- so no complaints!


Also shout out to Jamie Lyn Jespersen! Her and I have started sending each other one thing that stood out to us each day from our personal scripture study. Not only is it cool to see what she's learning and grow closer to her but also it reminds me to be reading daily. Couldn't have asked for a better friend. It adds a great spirit to everyday, and keeps me focused on the right things.
So if you find you keep forgetting--enlist a friend for help!!




Also, these just crack me up. Screen door.

Progress in baby steps.

So. Yesterday was the first day Camden's therapist began any sort of therapy. Yesterday she also mentioned he's probably ready to be discharged. Crazy huh. (: 

So let me explain. 

Camden's myoclonus (see post titled lemonade) raised some concerns for his future. The doctors were positive that as far as the myoclonus goes it wasn't affecting his brain when his episodes happen. What no one could be 100% about was the possibility they would go on to affect his development, or if he already had an abnormality that brought about the myoclonus. Make sense? 

So Camden's kind of a late bloomer in some ways too. He struggled with nursing. Had bad bad reflux. Had MSPI. Both things caused by just a little bit of an immature system. 

So at Camden's 9 month appointment he wasn't totally meeting all the things for his average age. Plus we discovered at that appointment he was also anemic. So the doctor told me with most children he would say don't worry let's keep seeing how they do, children learn differently. However, with Camden he said lets not wait let's make sure we stay on top of things JUST in case. With the reflux, MSPI, myoclonus, anemia, developmental delay...all combined the doctor said it is too hard to know what affects what with Camden and it wasn't worth risking missing a developmental delay. So we had him evaluated as a precaution by a group of therapists. 

This is where I began to get frustrated. Camden at this point was still not eating solids and struggling with textures. So I knew that he was probably going to qualify for oral therapy. Babies only qualify if they are at least 25% behind. Camden also wasn't crawling yet. 

But he began crawling a week before the evaluation and doing almost all the things he wasn't doing two weeks before at the doctors appointment. 

But as I met with the therapists I felt Camden was kind of labeled as "behind" before the evaluation even started and he began being nitpicked even when I said he could do something at home he just wasn't wanting to do for them. He qualified for therapy which I was fine with and I kept moving forward. 

The therapists suggested a swallow study to rule out any physical abnormalities causing the aversion to chunks or texture. I was okay with this plan. 

The swallow study as you all know revealed still a severe reflux we didn't know was still there because it's now silent reflux. (He doesn't throw up anymore like he did before) 

Everything was normal physically. 

For whatever reason I feel like God was waiting for me to find that answer. 

Reflux. 

Up until this point I have been struggling to rely on my lack of knowledge (never had children before) my "instincts", and the advice of everyone around me. 

His pediatrician says "just in case"

His therapist says he needs more words. 

His neuro says this. 

His GI says this. 

So hard. Each doctor connected a different variable and ignored the others to decide something else was to blame. 

Each doctor saw an issue relating to an area which they specialized in. 

The GI wanted an endoscopy. Because Camden had great tone and weight gain but still abnormal eating habits and bad reflux. 

The therapist came and decided he was delayed in motor planning and speech as well. She thought the reflux was not the problem and that his aversion was sensory motor and that he could possibly grow up to have ADD. She actually gave me a packet of possible learnig disorders Camden could have due to sensory motor issues lol. 

The neuro said due to his slightly low tone and poor weight gain (remember what the GI said?) it could be an illness and ordered blood work. 

Then there are my friends and my family who actually KNOW Camden and actually have raised children telling me he is completely normal. 

Sometimes I felt judged by both sides. Like I was crazy for just doing what the doctors were telling me to do. Or ridiculous to the doctors for suggesting other options. 

I felt virtually no guidance In the process and just chose to take comfort in the fact that I knew I was doing literally all I could and pursuing all routes to provide the best options for little Camden. 

I've contemplated taking him out of therapy before it's really began. She's come to observe Camden and she's so so critical. When she first came Camden said "dada" and "baba" and "ah" and "eh". She said that wasn't enough letters he had learned to use. 

By the next week he added "wa wa" "ta" "na na" (imitating no) 

"La" and "uh oh" 

She said he needed more. She said his imitation of "no" being "na" was a red flag. And that he needed an m and a th and an s and an h. 

"Th" really? My 10 month old has to make the "th" sound?? 

She said he needed to be more imitative. I showed her how he imitates a surprised face. How he claps. How he clicks his lips when I do. His high five. His kisses. 

Not enough. She said he had poor motor planning. 

I asked what that meant. 

She said he needed motor planning before he could do skills like jump. 

I said he jumps all the time. 

Not enough. 

All her suggestions were based on the original evaluation that lasted 20 minutes and they wrote out things for her to watch for. 

It didn't matter how much Camden improved she just wouldn't be positive. 

It was making me so angry!!

Then that blessed swallow study! 

I was given one concrete answer with PROOF. 

reflux. 

he has reflux. 

Peace. Peace was all I felt that day. And that peace grew into confidence which grew into understanding. 

The person who helped me with the swallow study suggested that she thought Camden's aversions were due to reflux. Period. 

Simple. 

I upped Camden's reflux medicine. 

I started going slower. I introduced foods to him while he was in my lap to offer comfort. 

I let him play with food in his hands so hopefully he would be okay with it when I put it in his mouth. 

I did things to help his fear of food due to food always causing him pain in the past. 

And you know what? He eats ONLY real food now. (well and has bottles) but no purees!

Has been for over a week every meal. 

Breakfast. Pancake, eggs, fruit. 

Lunch, sandwhich pasta cheese fruit anything! 

Dinner: meat potatoes fruit veggies.

The Sky is the limit. And he feeds it all to himself. 

He had a neuro appt yesterday. It went well. She feels Camden's doing great. She wants to recheck him in 2 months and if in 2 months he's still considered "delayed" by developmental therapists then they will look into neurological symptoms. But she now feels a lot of his complications were the reflux. A reaction to constant pain. 

The myoclonus is virtually completely gone now though and we are feeling confident. 

Last night the therapist came. I was so excited to show her he can eat. I knew she couldn't possibly tell me he was still behind In sensory motor. (The only thing he actually qualified for-- she diagnosed him with MORE the first day she showed up) 

Then she said it he's probably okay to be discharged!! She's never even done any oral therapy yet lol. 

But she's going to come a couple times for the next two months so that we have an evaluation to take to his last neuro appointment and so we can be "sure" he is okay. 

I feel confident though. 

Camden learns something new almost daily. 

Someday I think the doctors will be able to see it that way too (; 

The way I see it.

Today we had Camden's swallow study.
While I hated the test and at one moment felt like I was fighting back tears, it has given me a lot of peace oddly. I didn't expect to be blessed with so much comfort and clarity in one day.
I have been praying for the ability to find more understanding and peace in the situations and questions we have found lately in life regarding Camden's well being. When I pray I have moments where I feel I understand, moments where I feel I receive immediate comfort when I ask, and moments where I feel there is complete silence on the other side of the line. I have days where I feel angry, days where I feel gratitude, nights where I cry, and mornings where I dance with my little man and laugh. I have come to realize though that while Camden's experiences may be unique for me, I am not special. CAMDEN is special. Every mother questions, worries, struggles, and prays for their child-- these things I am experiencing are just being a mother. Camden is the one who is special. He endures all with a smile.
How did I get so lucky?
...Anyway-- back to the test!
It wasn't very fun pinning down my baby and trying to force feed him the barium under the threat of a feeding tube up his nose and down his throat should he refuse to drink it. It was a mildly stressful situation.  He was okay drinking it until he was so frustrated with being pinned down. He wouldn't drink and was crying and thrashing. The doctors said it was time for plan "B". But I asked for more time. I walked to Camden's diaper bag and got the nipple from his bottles and said a little prayer that somehow someway he would be calmed and he would drink the gross chalky liquid. He did.
I don't have the results yet as far as if everything is normal physically, but they did confirm he still has as the doctor said "wicked" reflux. It doesn't still come all the way out like it did when he was little. But the doctor said Camden only drank 3 oz before he began refluxing all the way to the top of his throat.
It is nice to have an answer in one aspect of his life. I know to keep him on his medicine and I know that he is still having pain associated with eating. A therapist watched him eat and told me that his aversion to foods is highly likely because he simply is scared due to the reflux. He has learned foods hurt and so has kept himself in a safe zone. She says his sensory motor system is out of whack because he's become so sensitive and consequently has a hyper sensitive gag reflex. So when I offer textured foods its too much for him and he rejects them. Plus the chunkier the food, the more painful the reflux.
Poor guy.
It amazes me how happy and calm of a baby he is despite it all.
I have been feeling good today though. I feel knowing that he is scared is helpful. Rather than just the nagging thought of him being "behind" I know he needs me to help him learn it is okay.
I have already been able to think of some great things that I think will help him learn to enjoy food and trust it. It has been a good day.
All day all I have seen when I look at him is a happy boy with so much potential. There's not been any nagging thoughts of learning disabilities, developmental delays, myoclonus--nothing. Those are for another day I am sure, but today I have been blessed with peace.

I have been thinking lately, however, would I change things?
And I have decided no, I would not. The kids who thrive and have confidence are those who have parents that don't want them to be different than they are. And that starts now I believe. I can't wish Camden were different for my sake. I wish things were easier, for his sake, but I will do whatever I need to, to be able to be blessed with him in my life.
With that in mind I have decided, the sleepless nights in the hospital, the constant puke as a little guy, the sickness I had while I carried him-- I would do it all over again, and again and again. However, I would do it sooner so I could have him in my life earlier and be with him the longest time possible.
Plain and simple.

And with that in mind, my mind went to my husband.
While I am grateful for the lessons I learned from all those I dated if I could go back without changing who I am now I would choose to date Garth sooner and consequently get to spend more of my life with him than I will get to now.

I don't feel I gave up anything to have them in my life. I don't feel like the struggles of being a mom aren't worth it.
Sometimes I don't do anything but clean and change diapers in a day. Sometimes I don't get to do my hair. I rarely feel like I look "in style". I think I am already developing "crowes feet".
And somehow all of those things are blessings, because it means I am married to Garth and a mother to Camden.

I feel that I have been able to create a life with these two boys that is better than any dreams I could have had for myself.

Lucky me!

10 Months!

So this post is a LITTLE late, but Camden turned 10 whole months on the 21st!
Crazy how big he is now! I can't believe it.

At 10 months Camden...

is crawling and moving EVERYWHERE. I love it.

So independent.

Would rather explore household things than use his toys.

Loves sitting and observing, usually he begins to giggle at what he's observing.

Finds most things humorous.

Very into music and sounds, we play Itunes radio on our apple tv and he plays around but when it's between songs, he stops, looks at the screen, and waits for a new song to begin. He even enjoys dancing every now and again.

Squeals, and has learned he can make noise both on an exhale and an inhale!

Stands up in his crib all the time.

Loves that he can get into the sitting position all by himself.

When he wakes from naps he sits up and peeks over the bumper patiently waiting for mom. When she enters the room he squeals and then laughs excitedly.

Loves the outdoors. I often find him staring outside our window on our deck door.

Very observant, focuses on one object for a long time.

Still such a smiley guy.

Loves peek-a-boo and initiates it.

chases dad around as dad says "come" in twi

Gives kisses when you ask for them (usually pretty open mouthed on his end)

Loves all forms of water as long as it is not too cold temperature wise

Loves ORANGES. Basically the only thing he willingly chews and swallows.

Sleeps through the night, still takes two naps.

Still loves his bottle.

Pulls himself up and has begun some mild cruising.

Prefers to be on the ground roaming around.

Loves his stroller, especially when we lay it all the way back and he can lounge while we walk.

Says "Dad" and "Bom" (closest we've gotten to mom yet). Dad comes out at all sound levels and sometimes it's just "dad" other times it's "dad dad DAD DAD DAD"!

Is still our favorite baby ever!

Camden still has his episodes, some days are better than others... we have a follow up with the neurologist on the 21st.

He will be doing oral therapy for help with his aversion to foods, also has a swallow study soon to check out how he is developmentally there.

Makes us laugh all the time, and gets into all sorts of mischief now that he can move around. We've had many bonked heads and bruises since he began crawling!!